A little bit about talking to girls through technology.
“You’re up late”
That’s the line that changed a lot for me. And the best part about it? It was said in an IM.
I love technology. I love every little thing about it. The sounds, the lights, the smell, and, sometimes, even the taste. But most of all I love how it allows me to be me, immediately, without any of those awkward silences or weird mannerisms that would promptly have the girl get up and leave without me getting her number. And, even if I did get her number, the next few days/weeks of humiliating myself in trying to talk to her are not really worth it. I am definitely a 21st century child.
The beauty of this technology is that we can do it anytime, from anywhere. Your simple computer, or on your cell phone. And now, with the way mobile phone tech is going, we can do far more with these little pocket gizmo thingies. I can use Skype, Gmail and MSN chat, take pristine photos and can be guided using my GPS – All on the same device. Browse my Twitter/gmail/facebook accounts, send hot sms’s and receive dirty pictures. I love my phone. I love technology.
I’m no good at going out and picking up girls. It just doesn’t happen. I’ve never really been able to, and besides, I think pickup lines are lame. They either leave you pink-faced, or you’re back at that awkward stage of trying to communicate how hot you think she is over the sounds of “Poker Face” resonating through the club. Not ideal.
Yes, I love to go out and dance and have a few drink and have fun with friends, but because I am so uncomfotable about the girl situation, I generally don’t do anything about it unless she does first. And the thing is, I really am completely okay with it.
You see, a week after that IM, I was taking my first few steps to getting over the ex. Big, hot, sweaty steps. Yes, I already knew her, but it was being able to talk to her in my own special way through IM that let her know who I really was. I was able to do it my way – to use my own criticised always-onlineness to get exactly what I wanted. And maybe finish with a “who’s laughing now, bitch!”. And it really worked wonders, we even dated for a couple of months.
Twitter is awesome too. Subtle or not-so-subtle flirting takes place all the time, whether or not you’ve ever met the person. It’s almost like those chat rooms you ventured into when you were a teenager. At least this way, you have a little more certainty that you’re not talking to a 55 year old man jacking off to your words while he pretends to be a 16 year old girl.
No, this is cultured talking to who, appear, to be good people all looking for more or less the same thing. If I meet someone that I find interesting and we click then awesome, but don’t assume I use Twitter as a dating service.
I enjoy being able to this so much I even send airtime to people I’ve never really met so we can keep talking. It would be the same as going on a date and paying for the bill. In this case, she’s 500kms away but I’m still willingly paying for her awesome company.
Maybe it’s just my real life insecurities that stop me from being me, or my lack of confidence since my break-up, but either way the world is heading to a much more internet-based society, why shouldn’t I have a head start?
So I will continue to embrace the fact that I can talk to girls online, the fact that I can use my words to my advantage when I can’t in real life, and why shouldn’t I? Every jock out there uses his strong jaw line and manly physique to do it, I’m going to do it my way.
Besides, girls should realize that nerds are pretty much the best species out there. Besides, who wants to talk to a jock anyway? They’re lame and smell funny.
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darling boy.
i hear you.
nerd boys ftw!
Dude it’s called alcohol, drink be confident……
I love the online talking thing. It eliminates judgement over creed, age and race. You get to know the person behind the person. It’s awesome.
But dangerous, since you tend to grow fond of personalities rather quickly.
And of course, there’s always the possibility of deception.
@Shaun – The booze doesn’t actually help, and I like to be able to perform all necessary tasks when asked to…
@SheBee – It’s called social engineering, where you make up the life you want or need or whatever. But at least this way you fall for someone only knowing them as they appear. And you catch them in all the moods, problems, the works. AND, if you’re really lucky, you get to see pictures of them that make them look like super models. *cough*
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